Quite often, it takes a major shakeup or catastrophe for everybody, including you, to wake up and change your life.
You recognize that something isn’t right. You know it.
The sad part is that it’s so much easier to keep living this life rather than do the work to change it. You’re pretty comfortable being miserable. It’s become a part of you every day. Even though it really isn’t any fun, it’s safe.
But there does come a time when change is a must and that’s before a tragedy hits. There are dangerous signs that shouldn’t be avoided. If you see any of the following signs in your life, it’s time. Time to change your life.
Here are 12 signs it’s time to change your life:
1. You can’t remember the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone.
According to Neale Donald Walsch, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Your life can become even more amazing if you stretch beyond your comfort zone.
2. You live for your vacations.
Vacations are great, but what’s even better is building a life you don’t need to take a vacation from. As Seth Godin said, “Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” Vacations are fun and exciting, but even better is building a life where you have the potential to do what lights you up many weeks of the year, not just your two allotted vacation weeks.
3. You are jealous of your friend’s success.
Your friend just got a promotion and you would rather chew glass then congratulate them. The very thought of having to recognize their achievement and wish them good luck causes you a great deal of grief, anxiety, envy, anger, and resentment. Somethings gotta give here.
4. You’re calling in sick more than you ever have.
You are making up new excuses to not go into work. You hate it, you hate your coworkers, you hate your boss, it’s all just one big hate fest and it’s actually physically starting to make you sick. You can’t live like this much longer my friend.
5. Everything is getting on your nerves.
Little things that used to roll off your back are now a major point of contention. You are irritated easily and often. You have little patience anymore and it always seems you are just angry or annoyed most of the day.
6. You daydream more than you are present.
OK so daydreaming is definitely a fun thing to do. The point here is that you can’t do it all day. When you find yourself doing this more than normal, it’s time to take a deep look inside and see what’s missing.
7. You start saying bad things about your coworkers.
Better known as gossiping. Your life is in such a state of chaos right now, you can’t bear to discuss it with anyone so you talk about everyone else and how bad they are or how stupid they are. You’d rather talk about them then think about your own life and problems.
8. You’re starting to lie.
When people ask you if you are ok you always say yes. You lie about your health, your job, your emotional state. You just maintain that everything is fine, all the time. You are hiding behind your own lies.
9. You cry more than you should.
We all deserve to be happy and have joy in our lives. If this is not the case for you and you are crying more than you are smiling then something has to go.
10. You avoid phone calls.
You don’t want to talk to your sister or your friend. It’s easier to avoid the call and return the call when you feel like it or never. You know they’ll keep calling and one day you will have to answer. Just not today. And maybe not even tomorrow.
11. You have no idea what lights you up, and you don’t have the space in your life to discover it.
If you haven’t found your passion in your current life, you’re not going to find it if you continue to do your same routine, over and over, year after year. In order to discover what lights you up, start by creating the space in your life to seek it. Give yourself time to figure out who you are, what your strengths are, and what piques your interest. Experiment with learning new things, spending time with inspiring people, and doing more of what excites you and less of the things that suck your energy.
12. You know there is something better than this feeling.
When you recognize the feelings of gloom you have and know that it isn’t normal to feel like this all the time, you are ready to change. When you’ve just about had enough angst, fear, frustration, and anger then you know it’s time.
Changing your life is never easy and no one can say it will be. Life is too short to spend your years not living to your full potential. If you decide you’re ready to change your life, I encourage you to start taking small action steps toward the life you want to live. Keep moving forward.
Source: Steven Aitchinson