Learning to Be!
Marriages aren’t healed with big things; they’re healed with small things done every day.
Around this time last year, in Chicago, we were in the middle of a polar vortex. The thermostat hovered around zero. The schools were frequently closed. It was painful to go outside.
And my wife went to New Orleans without me.
It was a business trip, and she went out of her way to make provisions for the kids and me—she even flew her mother in to help with childcare while I was at work.
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By Derek Markham, naturalpapa.com
It sometimes feels as if we’re caught between the old model of aggressive and combative manhood, where everything is a battle, and the new, kinder, gentler man, for whom everything is a compromise.
Unconditional love means setting your own agenda aside and loving anyway. At first, it’s a difficult sell.
We all know how it feels, to be loved. You feel supported, you feel strengthened, you feel safer. You know that the person who loves you is someone you can trust. You can share with them anything about yourself or your life, and you know that person loves you enough to accept it and take it with the seriousness you feel it deserves. That’s the beauty of true, unconditional love.
Love is synonymous of respect, peace, harmony, understanding, protection, acceptance, growth.
1. Know exactly how you feel about what happened, and be able to articulate what about the situation is not okay. Then tell, a couple of trusted people about your experience.
2. Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else. No one else even has to know about your decision.
3. Understand your goal.