I do believe that all relationships are just a way to know thyself better. All experiences shared with others direct to yourself. At the end of the day, you only seek your own love, your own approval. The whole point of loving someone is to rekindle the love for yourself.
When you feel complete within yourself, you attract someone just like yourself. But the journey starts with you. If you try and change your reality first, you are only going to be waiting for your reflection to smile first.